Trace De True 相信無限

If you don’t know please ask.
Everyone heard this sentence “If you don’t know please ask”. However, how many people follow? Is it so hard to ask? Alright if you don’t want ask, fine. Is your problem, you will keep on know nothing. However, if you already decide don’t want ask and make your own assumption. Alright, still acceptable, but is base on your assumption is correct. If you assumption is wrong and you still want argue on it then is your fault. And you keep on telling others that you are correct not doing wrong then you should go back school to learn.

Think before action.
Human have brain, base on research human is intelligent because human able to think. However, the more you feel comfortable of your life, the less you think.
Example: There is a function available at all the computer which is copy and paste. Most of the humans have a habit which is simply copy and paste and never think about why you copy and where to apply. Copy and paste make human lazy to think and it is a block of improve.

Busy is not an excuse that cause problem happened.
How we define busy? Definition of everyone is different. But we have a way that to avoid or to make busy is part of our life, which is planning. If you have a good plan, your life will be easier. You can have a busy life but is easier causes things come to you are still in your plan, you still able to fix it. That’s why busy is not always an excuse to cause problem happened. You may say you busy until forgot. This reason still acceptable once or twice. But this is not an excuse that cause some problem happened, which you should do it but you lazy to do it.

No one is always ready to help.
Helping is not the responsibility of anyone. If you need a help, please behave yourself. Don’t be the one who asking help but complaining the people who help you to others. Your behavior is unembarrassed.

Conclusion
If you don’t know please ask. After ask, please use your brain to think and differential which is important and start planning. Be responsible person, do not always use busy as excuse. Don’t always wait for help, be independent.

老鼠偷吃了我的零食。
老鼠偷吃了我的饼干。
老鼠咬坏了我的铁罐。
老鼠害我失眠。
老鼠令我不停的洗手。
老鼠令我不停的为我身边的东西消毒。
老鼠偷走了我的理智。
老鼠害我变成惊弓之鸟。
老鼠害我违抗上司。
老鼠害我一世英明，一朝丧。
可恶的老鼠！！！！！！！！！！！

幸运的我拥有很多知己，不幸的是相聚的时间太短。我的知己散落在世界各地，新西兰，澳大利亚，英国，马来西亚。。。虽然，科技是发达，但还是见面或在身边的好。我知道我贪心，但人是贪心的。一个，一个的各散东西我也很无奈，还是散到可以绕地球一圈。搞到我好像是天煞孤星似的。。。

哎。。。

独在异乡为异客，
每逢佳节倍思亲。
遥知兄弟登高处，
遍插茱萸少一人。

王维《九月九日忆山东兄弟》

人年纪越大，越害怕改变。习惯成自然。当习惯被改变，人会开始觉得不安。不安会导致脾气暴躁，做出错误的决定。遗憾的是，事物会不停的改变，而人就要适应改变。无论改变的结果是你所适应与否，你都得接受它。接受改变的人通常是大赢家。这就所谓遇强越强。

我们通常都在等待，等人，等车，等飞机，等火车。。。等待的过程，有时是蛮邂意的，看看你身边的人与物，理解下人们在等待时会做些什么，观察下他们的心情，很快等待的时间就会过去了。

小学时，等巴士会去买些零食和一班朋友聊聊天。中学时，等补习，等开会。。。等待的过程还是与一班死党聊聊天。学院时，可以说是最多等待的时间，等上课。课与课之间有太多等待的时间，开始时是无聊的，后来是忙不过来。太多活动，太多功课。。。但还是有一班死党在身边陪伴着。

后来，跑到老远的英国去。开始尝试一个人去旅行，一个人漫无目的游走在街上，一个人的等待。。。走走停停，走累就坐在街边（英国的好处四周都有地方让你休息）看看忙碌的人，悠闲的人，无聊的人。。。其实我也是在等待，等待我自己做出一个决定。。。在这个等待的过程中，出现了很多值得珍惜的朋友，同时也让我看清很多事情。

我怀念：
在古老的火车站等火车，怀念那火车在我身边慢慢停下的感觉。
在等待的过程中有一班死党的陪伴。
放慢脚步，停下来，看一下这个世界。。。

Many things happened on April and May

My beloved grandmother had passed away. I was still thinking how to celebrate her 80 years old birthday. However, there will be no more birthday celebration to her. I miss last year celebration, I was at UK. Now no chances for me celebrate anymore.

I was flight to Hanoi three times per month. Three times make me exhausted. Last time people said “Wow, you able to fly is good” everybody envious on you, but I believe now because of Air Asia, “Every one can fly”. People will realize that fly is TIRED. We paid money to TIRED although save time and fast to reach destination.

Good news my parents go back together. Bad news my stupid father, although I do not want call him like this but… He make himself went hospital, because he went climbing on 2pm in the evening. Who will so stupid go climbing on 2pm. The sun will burn you up. And some more he got head attack. I really do not know what is in his mind.

How about myself? I was sick and recover and sick again. Working life was busy as usual. Users were obstinate as well.

This is a recently updated post of me. First, I officially graduated; I had attended all the convocation of mine and now joining the social university. Hahaha… Last weekend have a meet with my secondary school mates or ex-prefect mates. Chatting and memory about secondary school life, the time we spending together, the things we went through and etc. Just forgot take picture, next time should take. I got my medical report. Ah… bad news, my old friend comes back visit me. Fighting with my body itself is much harder than fighting with others. Yesterday, my grandmother was hospitalized. She was sent by my mother and her relative from Puchong. Erm… where is my father? He just stands there and watch things happened. Then where is my brother? He working at Puchong but he refuses to coming visit my grandmother, the reason is he just came back on last weekend. I really disappointed on these two “MAN” in my family. I just hope I able passed through everything.

神阿！我勇于面对您给的挑战，但也请您给我喘息的机会。
God, I have the courage to face you to the challenges, but you please give me a break.

This article was forward by a friend. I totally agree on it. Therefore, I shared it here.

喜歡和愛咫尺千里。

當你 喜歡 一個人時，你想和他在一起，因為他會帶給你快樂；

離開後，你會想念，想著想著就會笑，然後繼續你平靜的生活，並期待著與他再一次重逢。

當你愛 一個人時，你想和他在一起，那是一種牽腸掛肚的捨不得，怕他受委屈，怕他不能好好照顧自己；

離開後，你也會想念，想著想著歎一口氣，’不知他現在過的怎樣？’

然後你繼續你平靜的生活，希望他早日回到你身邊。

你喜歡 的人在你眼中是天使，無所不能，他總會滿足你的任性的要求。

你愛 的人在你眼中是孩子，傻傻的，你不期望他做出什麼’好事’來，只一味縱容他那些讓人哭笑不得的舉動。

你會希望你喜歡 的人陪著你，然而你心中想的可能是你愛的人；

你會希望陪在你愛 的人身邊，看他在你面前睡得如此安逸甜美毫不設防的樣子，你會微笑，會覺得好幸福。

你喜歡 的人傷害了你，你會生氣，並且一定要讓他哄著騙著逗你笑你才原諒他；

你愛 的人傷害了你，你只會獨自傷心，因為你怕對他大吼大叫會嚇著他，你憂傷地微笑著，看著他的眼睛，

一旦發現他的眼裡流露出歉意和悔恨，你會立即心疼地摟他在懷裡，那一刻，你也是幸福的。

你可以同時喜歡 很多人，你會希望和很多人在一起，

但也許很多年後你才發現，原來你愛 的就只有那麼一個，

就那麼一個，怎麼都不會變，你以為把他忘記了，其實只是忙的沒空想起而已，

對於你喜歡 的人，你關注的是他的優點；

對於你 愛 的人，你關注的是他的缺點，並且，那些缺點如果無關原則的話，它們在你眼裡是可愛的，獨一無二的。

喜歡和愛 其實只有一紙之隔，任何愛都從喜歡開始，當有天你突然發現，你喜歡的那個人在你眼中不再完美，

而他的瑕疵正如月中的桂影一般讓你更加依依不捨，你會覺得與他光彩照人的一面相比，

你更願意看他在你面前無助的表情，不知道是不是應該祝賀你，總之，你的感情昇華了
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仰慕 不是 愛，甚至不是 喜歡 ，當你對一個人只有 仰慕 之情時，你們在一起便失去了和諧。

有人說愛 一個人很累，的確是，因為你想為他承擔，可是愛與喜歡 相比最大的魅力就在於，

當你和 愛的人在一起時，你的感覺就像回家了！

Just saw one of my photos was uploaded by my friend. Actually is nothing special, because every day got friends upload your photo. However, the special for that photo, is the date of photo took. I might forget the date of that day but I will not forget what happened on that day. That day I got the call from my brother in the mid night, telling me the bad news between my parents. I was sleepless for the rest of the hours left and I continue attend class in the morning, follow the plan go watch tall ship, attending my senior graduation. No one knows what had happened on me that day, I seem handling my emotion so well on that day and the rest of days.

No one realises what happened on me until I told. However, there are someone is different, just only she, just she realise something wrong on me. I really appreciate on her and thank you, you at my side when I need support. However, I feel very sorry when you need support and I’m not there. Once again sorry my friend, I hope you are doing good in Liverpool.

Now thinking back, I, myself also wonder how come I able to handle well on my emotion. I remember when I was 11 years old; my mother gave birth to my younger sister. But she was in danger. I heard my father said I was cold-bloodedly just because I did not cry or I act as normal. I cannot remember what reaction that time; I just able remember what he comment.

Every time things happened, I composure handle it. Sometime I really hope I can like others people simply realise out what they feel. I feel that I always handle my emotion in intellect but not in sentiment. Some time I feel how good follow our feeling but not our intellect.

I remember when I was a child, my parents and elder always taught me, we must share our toys, books and etc. I’m sure every parent taught their children sharing. However, when we grow up, we seldom do sharing. Most of us will become selfish; keeping everything as secret or the thing that they thought should keep in secret.

Asian love to keep their knowledge secretly, that’s why many of ours ancestor’s knowledge are lost. And the classes’ concept or respect to teacher or senior is higher than everything. Last time, you cannot point out the mistake made by teacher on the sport or in front of everyone. Even now, most of the Asian also will not point it out. Respect is good, but just does not too over. Over will make the thing from good to bad. Respect is giving from both sides. However, westerners love to share their knowledge, they will not keep something behind, discussion is the way they share their knowledge and gain the new ideas.

Example when you having a first meeting or discussion with your seniors. If you are with Asians, juniors sure will sit on their seat quietly listen the seniors giving “speech”. This is so call respect? Or maybe this is first time juniors feel shy? Or scare the ideas in mind are wrong and make fun by others? Or scare the idea which against with the senior and will get angry by the senior? I have no ideas, but this happened always. Let’s turn to another way round, if you are with westerns, you can see peoples around you excited getting involve discussion. They will not care the ideas sound out are correct or wrong, just sound out and discuss. If not you will never know what you think is agree by others or not.

Listen and sound out ideas are good, we able to gain different ideas, and many of it are we have not think before. If is just listening, you will forget it faster. Because you are just listen and not thinking. Unorganized information is unable to stay in our mind longer. If you are just speak out your ideas and never listen, you just stay in you world. You just follow what you think. Therefore, listen and sound out is equal to sharing. Sharing is good.

Why peoples scare sharing? I believe you able give out many answers. But, think back is it the answer or is an excuse? You scare others will steal your cheese? But, think twice. The more you share, the more you earn. Your knowledge is increasing but not decreases. Sharing is like exchange. Example, we go restaurant buy our meal, chef serving food to us and we going to pay for it. It is exchange and every one agrees on it. It is same as sharing knowledge. Why can’t we exchange our knowledge?

PS: I’m not comment on how good westerners were. It is just an example.